Every day, we make hundreds of choices, big and small. For the big ones, recognizing and understanding when it’s the right time for change can be an integral part of our decisions — and it can be tricky. Our minds are hardwired to scan for anything that feels threatening or "off.” If the job you’d like to leave offers you stability, your mind may lose focus on the opportunities a new job can provide. Even if you’ve found the perfect partner, your mind will often highlight any perceptions of incompatibility or concern. This hardwiring came from long ago when the world was full of immediate threats — for early humans, relaxing for a moment might have meant being eaten by a wooly mammoth!
Many people have heard of the chakras, the meridians, or the body’s energy fields. These parts of your energy anatomy make up your energy system and can affect your health, wellness, and well-being. You have different types of energies that flow through this system, such as your life-force energy (or vitality), your creative energies, and your will forces, the energies that help motivate and drive your work. Even your thoughts are an energy, and together these energies are the voice of your authentic compass.
To access these energies, connect with your higher self, the wisest and kindest voice within. In doing so, you can determine how well your energy and the energies around you are harmonizing. When we are in harmony with ourselves and the world around us, we can make the choices that best support our goals and the life we desire. We call that being in flow. When you are in flow, destiny meets you where you are. When you make decisions based on the wisest part of you — your higher self, you can find more ease in making the tough decisions and more confidence that your choices are right for their particular timing.
Here is one grounding practice and six energy-based tips to help you when you are faced with a difficult decision or challenging timing. Before following this advice, take a few moments to center yourself — this will help you to be open to the different ways that your higher self speaks to you.
Simple Grounding Practice
Place one hand on your lower abdomen and one on your upper chest and take a few deep breaths. Let your breath guide you to this present moment and connection with your body.
Close your eyes and begin to move your gaze internally. Think about what’s going on inside, mentally and physically. Feel the expanded space and set the intention to connect with your higher self.
Your higher self speaks to you through your body sensations, emotions, thoughts, messages (audible and visual ones), and even signs from the world around you.
These tips will help you open the dialog.
Consider these elements when thinking through decisions and timing:
Your physical body. Your vitality, or life force, will be open and flowing or constricted and diminished with any decision. When thinking about your decision, do you feel more alive and excited, or does your energy drop? Assess your inner vibrance.
Your emotional body. Happiness is a high vibe energy of expansion, where sadness and depression are connected to contraction. Does your energy expand in happiness? Or do you start feeling contracted and sad?
Your mental body. Trust your gut, it’s your second brain! Your gut feelings connect with a primal navigation system in your body. Are you getting fluttery butterflies or a pit in your stomach?
Messages. You have a seriously wise sage within, waiting for you to ask questions. Asking for a message is as easy as sitting and making the request. Listen to what your higher self says to you — sometimes it’s a single, bold word like “STOP” or “YES!” Sometimes it’s much more subtle. If you feel like you’re not getting any messages, be patient and stay open. These things take time and focus, but will also come at the right time for you.
Visions. You can see far beyond your regular sight through dreams, desires, and passions. You have an inner seer that casts images of truth and offers visions of insight. Remember, when asking for a vision, these may come in the knowing of a vision — it is the subtle experience of sight that occasionally feels like an inner knowing with a story or a picture.
Signs. The universe is a benevolent playground of flowing energies, and you are invited to play! Set an intention and let the universe start sending you signs. Sometimes, through messages around us, we find our own clarity. Have you ever had a, “That’s just the push I need” moment? Like when a Dove chocolate wrapper says “Book the flight” when you’re waffling on that impromptu vacation? Stay open to what you overhear, signs you observe in nature, and words you see written on the side of trucks, street signs, people's shirts, and flyers.
Use these energy-based techniques to help you hear your inner voice and the direction that your higher self is pushing you. However, don’t let your gut feelings overrule your reason and logic. Always check in with your brain. For example: If you want to invest in the stock market and it is at an all-time high, does that seem like a wise decision? Highly unlikely. Should you get married when there is significant family turmoil? Perhaps there is a better time for celebration.
You are much more than your physical body, and you live a larger life than the one you experience in your day-to-day reality. Using these techniques will help you navigate an unsettled mind's chatter and ground yourself in clarity for big decisions. In addition, they will expand your inner compass by helping you strengthen your communication with your higher self.
Wishing you resonance with all good things, all in perfect time.
This article was originally published in the Winter 2021 issue. After submitted by the author it was modified by our editorial team for length before final publication. We would like to emphasize that the sentence, "Chakras, or meridians, are the body's energy fields," published in print is incorrect and not the author's words. Please enjoy the full, unedited piece here.